Posts Tagged: monogamy

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Jul 10

OPEN MONOGAMY?

I don’t agree with Mary Rice Hasson’s approach to this issue. And I don’t think there’s enough research to really start putting figures on the numbers of gays and lesbians (and the figures are definitely different for each) who conduct non-monogamous long term relationships … but Hasson certainly flags an interesting issue: ‘open monogamy’.

This terms describes couples who permit sexual acts outside the relationship so long as they don’t generate emotional and lasting bonds.  Formalising such agreements does appear to be more common amongst gay men compared to straight and lesbian couples, in my anecdotal experience.  But is this really worse or more common than the half of opposite-sex married people who engage in affairs?   That I doubt.

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Conservatives / Marriage / Monogomy / North America / Surprising Marriage Equality Supporters / Uncategorized — No Comments
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Jul 10

THE POWER OF MARRIAGE

New York Times columnist David Brooks

I’ve always admired David Brooks as a rather clever conservative – the sort who keeps an open mind and admits it when he’s got it wrong.  In this New York Times piece he argues why we need to commit to fidelity more than ever, and why it makes no sense to believe that for ‘everyone but homosexuals.’

As conservatives “We shouldn’t just allow gay marriage” he says, “we should insist on it.”

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May 10

KEEPING THE FAITH: GAYS AND MONOGAMY

One really obnoxious argument against marriage equality is that gays don’t need marriage because they aren’t monogamous. As most research shows, and anyone who’s ever met more than a handful of lesbians knows: lesbians are the most faithful of all couples. Male-female couples are in the middle (with men the most likely cheaters), and gay men are the least faithful.

What does that tell us?  Being faithful is a man-problem, not a homosexual one. And across the board it’s essential to treat each couples as just that, a couple not a representative of millions of people.

Here is a great report from Australia – Not So Private Lives – about how more than 2,000 gays and lesbians, structure and define their relationships (and their preference for marriage).

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