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24
Aug 11

NEW BELGIAN STATISTICS

Belgian gay marriage statistics

Belgian gay marriage statistics (French key)

For the first time more lesbians than gays are marrying in Belgium, according to very interesting and detailed gay marraige statistics released in Belgium today by the Free University of Brussels (ULB) and published in French in Le Soir.

So far more than 17,000 gays and lesbians have married since 2003, with numbers reasonably steady at about 2,000 per year. Not bad for a small country of 10 million.

But the really interesting figures are the regional and gender breakdowns.

As many same sex couples married in the Flemish city of Antwerp (population 450,000) in 2010, as in the whole of Wallonia, the French speaking part of Belgium (population 3.5 million).  Even more than a highly international city like Brussels, the people of Flanders are addicted to same sex marriage. With only four times the population Flanders was responsible for eight times as many same sex marriages as the Brussels region.  (768 to 92 in 2010!)

Regarding the rise of the women, it is suggested that this is to make parenting arrangements easier to complete (including adoption not just insemination). Indeed, it is a little known fact that lesbians flock to Belgium for IVF treatment and adoption options, especially catering to French women in some instances).

Divorce is also on the rise for both gay and lesbian couples, but the study’s author says it is too early to give a meaningful comparison between homosexual and heterosexual divorce rates in Belgium. Seven years after the start of equality, about 8% of same sex couples have divorced.

The prediction of the author, David Paternotte, who is also looking at gay marrriages of people in France and Spain is clear “there is without doubt a snowball effect both in terms of rights affirmed by government and by jurisprudence (the courts)”


21
Aug 11

TAIWAN MASS GAY WEDDING

Taiwan lesbian couples

80 lesbian couples have tied the knot in an unofficial celebrations that was completed without police interference or protests, according to the Australian Broadcasting Corporation

I’ve seen reports of a fair few mass wedding in Asia – usually led by Moonies! – but this is first mass lesbian wedding party I’ve ever heard of in Asia. And apparently more than 1000 people PAID to watch it happen.

But it is not that surprising given that Taiwan has the largest gay pride celebrations in Asia. Taiwan has also had the tantalising prospect of a draft marriage equality bill since 2003.  Unlike many countries it was not drafted by a lone liberal or left-wing politican / party, but by the advisers of the Cabinet.  This bill is the first in Asia to promise marriage and adoption rights to gay couples.

Organisers say the event gives them hope that the island will soon legalise gay marriage, but the Taiwanese President Ma Ying-Jeou says there needs to be “consensus” before such legislation can move forward.


18
Aug 11

BRIDE TURNED AWAY FROM STORE FOR HER “ILLEGAL ACTION”

alix_genter

Oh dear, what sort of awful person does this?

I sincerely hope that the Here Comes the Bride store in Philadelphia, USA, suffers major economic retaliation for this act.

Here is a sample of the nonense Alix Genter was forced to deal with:

“She said she wouldn’t work with me because I’m gay,” you recalled. “She also said that I came from a nice Jewish family, and that it was a shame I was gay. She said, ‘There’s right, and there’s wrong. And this is wrong.’ “


14
Jul 11

LESBIANS IN THE LEAD

 Lesbian Wedding Pictures, Images and Photos

First up – the overall queer community is marrying at the same rate as opposite sex couples in Massachusetts, thanks to same sex female couples outnumbering the men two to one.

Secondly, in terms of UK divorces lesbians were also in the lead in 2010 (maybe not in a good way)  about 3.3% dissolving their partnership compared to 1.6% of the men. These rates are still lower than that of opposite sex couples.

So, we are not marrying less or divorcing more it seems.  That’s  both no news and good news all round the push for equality I would say.


29
Apr 11

LIZ FELDMAN, I LOVE YOU

It’s been a long time since I said that to a woman who isn’t my mother …

But seriously, I saw this on The Gay Wedding Experience (thanks Brian) and just had to steal and share it.

My boyfriend thinks it’s lame. I think it is not only funny, but that the self-deprecating “as I like to call it” reference really shows up the people who want to marginalise our concerns and wish to have what everyone else has.

Liz Feldman is known from her After Ellen vlog entitled “This Just Out,” has four Emmy’s for her work on the Ellen DeGeneres Show

 

 


17
Apr 11

LESBIANS ON TOP WHEN IT COMES TO HOUSEWORK

1950s woman cleaning her kitchen floor

Two is better than one say lesbian couples

Reading Gail Collins’ magnum opus on women in America after 1960, I was struck by a section about housework.

Specifically Collins made the point that only lesbian couples tended to share the household chores evenly (at least in the surveys that bothered to include on the subject).  So I went digging …  I didn’t find anything about whether being in a same sex marriage makes a difference, but being in a same sex couple definitely does.

An Australian survey in 2010/11 (Work, Love and Play) shows the same thing: “Our findings are that lesbian couples are more likely to report a fairly equal division of labour in their household, compared to their heterosexual counterparts. On the whole, lesbian mothers are less inclined to feel like they shoulder more of the housework or parenting responsibilities than their partner.”

Studies (mostly American) from 2004 have been finding the same thing. Instead of falling into boring and unfair sterotypes like ‘breadwinning man’ versus ‘care-giving’ woman, both gay and lesbian couples are doing it a different way. Less shaped by role models, and also more likely to be in dual-income childless couples, the queers tend to do it this way:  men specialise in certain tasks, but usually equally, and women tend to share most or all of the tasks, also roughly equally.

Well done us.

P.S. (I wonder how many of us just sub-contract the work out to a cleaner?)


15
Feb 11

WHY THE “MARRIAGE” WORD MATTERS

Why Marriage Matters

Sorry to recycle again, but this is a worthy follow up to the question, “are civil unions worse than nothing?”, by a married lesbian in limbo (Jane Rigby Silver Spring), in the Washington Post this week.

My favourite point: “Marriage matters, because marriage is how society decides whose relationships matter, and whose don’t. No matter what, gay people will fall in love and make homes together, as we always have. Marriage equality is about whether straight people are going to recognize those relationships. It’s how they decide who’s family.”


28
Jan 11

FRENCH COURTS PUSHES MARRIAGE BACK INTO THE HANDS OF PARLIAMENT

France will maintain its ban on gay marriage after the constitutional court ruled that a lesbian couple with four children do not have the right to marry.

The ruling comes on the same day that a TNS Sofres opinion poll found 58 percent of French people questioned were in favour of gay marriage.

Essentially the court said that parliament should decide if the ban should be overturned, and not the constitutional authority.

“Marriage is the only solution in terms of protecting our children, sharing parental authority, settling inheritance problems and eventual custody if one of us were to die,“  Corinne Cestino and Sophie Hasslauer told AFP before the ruling.

President Nicolas Sarkozy opposed gay marriage, while the opposition Socialists support it. The couple already have a low-level civil union known as a ‘PACS’ in France. w


10
Dec 10

BLACK VS GAY – HILARIOUS


5
Dec 10

20 TIMES MORE WEDDINGS THAN DIVORCES IN UK

Caroline, Jack and Linzi Robertson

Caroline, Jack and Linzi Robertson

This is quite an interesting article from a Scottish newspaper. Shows that wedding rates are down, and divorce (dissolution) rates are up on the 5th anniversary of the UK’s civil partnership legislation.

The divorce is still much lower than for straight couples. There are 20 times more weddings than divorces each year.