Gay


24
Aug 11

NEW BELGIAN STATISTICS

Belgian gay marriage statistics

Belgian gay marriage statistics (French key)

For the first time more lesbians than gays are marrying in Belgium, according to very interesting and detailed gay marraige statistics released in Belgium today by the Free University of Brussels (ULB) and published in French in Le Soir.

So far more than 17,000 gays and lesbians have married since 2003, with numbers reasonably steady at about 2,000 per year. Not bad for a small country of 10 million.

But the really interesting figures are the regional and gender breakdowns.

As many same sex couples married in the Flemish city of Antwerp (population 450,000) in 2010, as in the whole of Wallonia, the French speaking part of Belgium (population 3.5 million).  Even more than a highly international city like Brussels, the people of Flanders are addicted to same sex marriage. With only four times the population Flanders was responsible for eight times as many same sex marriages as the Brussels region.  (768 to 92 in 2010!)

Regarding the rise of the women, it is suggested that this is to make parenting arrangements easier to complete (including adoption not just insemination). Indeed, it is a little known fact that lesbians flock to Belgium for IVF treatment and adoption options, especially catering to French women in some instances).

Divorce is also on the rise for both gay and lesbian couples, but the study’s author says it is too early to give a meaningful comparison between homosexual and heterosexual divorce rates in Belgium. Seven years after the start of equality, about 8% of same sex couples have divorced.

The prediction of the author, David Paternotte, who is also looking at gay marrriages of people in France and Spain is clear “there is without doubt a snowball effect both in terms of rights affirmed by government and by jurisprudence (the courts)”


23
Mar 11

LIZ TAYLOR FOR GAY MARRIAGE

Elizabeth Taylor (apparently she hated Liz), was a woman of depth on-screen and off. Here is her early and brilliant speech in favour of gay marriage at the 2000 GLAAD awards in California, with thanks to Rex Wockner for reminding us of this vision. Taylor fought for equality long before it was sexy, and we’ll remember her long after we finally achieve it.

“All of my life I’ve spent a lot of time with gay men — Montgomery Clift, Jimmy Dean, Rock Hudson — who are my colleagues, coworkers, confidantes, my closest friends, but I never thought of who they slept with! They were just the people I loved. I could never understand why they couldn’t be afforded the same rights and protections as all of the rest of us. There is no gay agenda, it’s a human agenda.

“All of us should be treated the same, and GLAAD knows that. Why shouldn’t gay people be allowed to marry? Those against gay marriages say marriage should only be between a man and a woman. God, I, of all people know that [the remainder of the sentence was inaudible due to an audience outburst]. I feel that any home where there is love constitutes a family and all families should have the same legal rights, including the right to marry and have or adopt children!

“Why shouldn’t gay people be able to live as open and freely as everybody else? What it comes down to, ultimately, is love. How can anything bad come out of love? The bad stuff comes out of mistrust, misunderstanding and, God knows, from hate and from ignorance … the bad things never came out of loving acts, loving gestures or loving relationships. That’s why I’m here tonight — to celebrate you and your families. And to tell you to hang in there and to say, once and for all of us, long live love.” Continue reading →


14
Dec 10

THE BEST ARGUMENT AGAINST GAY MARRIAGE …

Kenji Yoshini

… And why it fails.

This is a great article by Kenji Yoshini, a New York University (NYU) professor who wrote an amazing book called “Covering” a few years back. My boyfriend studied under him at NYU and raves about him, and I have to admit the book was such a sophisticated take on how gays float between being out and not, that I crave anything he now publishes.

Enjoy!


7
Sep 10

A LETTER TO ROB OAKESHOTT

Australia now has a renewed Labor Government with the Greens holding the power in the Senate from July 2011 – which is about as good as it gets in election outcomes for marriage advocates.

In the Lower House (where the Prime Minister sits) one man was crucial to allowing Julia Gillard to reform government: Rob Oakeshott.

Here a young gay man, who grew up just an hour or so from where I grew up, has written a touching letter to Mr Oakeshott about why he should act on the needs of gay men and lesbians. This man, like so many others, felt he had to move to Sydney after being marginalised because of his sexuality in his hometown.

I hope this sparks of a major letter-writing campaign. And congratulations to this anonymous young man!
Continue reading →


7
Aug 10

LATEST GAY WEDDING EXPERIENCE

It’s time to check in with my favourite gay couple blogging team at The Gay Wedding Experience.

If you ever wondered if gay weddings were like straight ones, this blog gives you the answer ….  a big fat yes.  Sometimes these boys take it a bit too far – the result being the Brian has actually been ordered on a holiday by his husband-to-be and therapist.  But that’s what you get when you get too worked up about colour-coding the ceremony’s parasols!


11
Jul 10

GERMANY WINS THIS WEEKEND

I just spent a lovely day at the wedding of my downstairs neighbour’s in Brussels, two lovely thirty-somethings from Germany.

The two clearest memories that remain with me today are 1) how normal and beautiful it all seemed, a wedding at the town hall with the Deputy Mayor presiding, two happy families, dozens of us on the steps for a group photo, and 2) the beaming mother of my neighbour. Mrs M just did not put those teeth away!

Then we all cheered as the late-arriving bride for the next wedding bounded up the stairs through the throng of gays – and to wide applause – into the arms of her waiting husband-to-be.

I just wish everyone could live in countries where this is a regular Saturday morning scene.


24
Jun 10

IMPORTANT CNN REPORT – GAY FAMILIES

Screening at 8pm American Eastern Time (24 June) – an important and moving CNN report on the true story of two men in a gay marriage, Gary Spino and Tony Brown, and their fight to form a family through surrogacy. The main trailer for “Gary and Tony Have A Baby” is above – more trailers if you click through.

The message: it is still radical for a gay, even a gay married couple, to form a family. But isn’t this what makes our communities stronger and our individual citizens happier?
This report shows that all the medical miracles and legal maneuvering can’t guarantee the approval of the people around them… or even a baby

Continue reading →


14
Jun 10

SPAIN’S 1ST GAY WEDDING STORE

A great video about ‘BY’ the first store in Spain dedicated to gay weddings. “What makes it so special and big is that it’s a simple idea”,


14
Apr 10

MAXIMUM SECURITY?

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Debates about marriage equality are at very different stages across the world – as this global map of marriage rights from the International Lesbian and Gay Association (ILGA) shows.

Did you know lesbians and more often gay men can be jailed for private sexual activities in more countries (78) than they can marry (10)?  That’s not the kind of maximum security we need.


13
Apr 10

WHEN WORDS AREN’T ENOUGH

Elton John and Ru Paul

Marriage / civil union / registered relationship … everyone has their preferred phrase. I obviously think marriage says the most, but sometimes you need more than a word to express a point.

Indeed there are quite a few songs about gay marriage now.

I knew about Ru Paul’s Love is Love, but nothing else.  You can even buy a full record called Marry Me at the link.

Please send links to other songs – especially in languages other than English!